“People are always saying that change is a good thing, but what they really mean is that something that you didn’t want to happen, has happened.” This quote is from my favourite film ‘You’ve Got Mail’, as Meg Ryan has to finally accept the loss of her beloved bookshop. Oh, how I love that film (and Daisies)! So much so that my precious DVD has given up the ghost. Change however is something I struggle with at times, and as Meg so aptly puts it, change often comes because of circumstances that are out of our control.
Three types of Change.
1. Change that is forced upon us ie: Death, divorce or the loss of something which gave us value, like our job or career.
2. Change that we choose ie: Changing our hairstyle, our blog theme (have you noticed?) or a change of lifestyle that we think would make us happier.
3: Change that comes from a positive place ie: Starting a new job, Engagement, Marriage, becoming a Parent or a Grandparent,
Change is the one constant thing in life, but whatever kind of change we face be it a sad change or a change that brings great joy, stress will play its part. I guess it’s how we face it and how we come out the other side that moulds our character and makes us stronger.
A few tips for surviving Change.
1. Acknowledge things are changing. Try not to keep fighting it, but start to deal with it, one step at a time.
2. Keep to a regular routine, even walking the dog every day can help to keep you grounded. (if you don’t have a dog borrow a friends!)
3. Realize that stress can be present even through positive changes.
4 Eat Healthily, Exercise and rest if needed.
5. Don’t be afraid to seek support… we all need help at times, that’s what friends and family are for.
Even the natural world is constantly changing and at times can get a bit muddled up.
I have some big changes ahead of me this year, some of which I have had a part in creating, and some that I can just ‘feel a coming’, I’m sure there will be blogs along the way to help me through as I share my experiences and journeys, but the one that is foremost in my mind is the transition from Parent to Grandparent!!… YES, I’m going to be a Grandma. Having spent the last few days walking around with a scan photo of my grandchild tucked safely in my pocket, occasionally checking in the mirror for new signs of ageing, and thinking surely it’s not possible, I am left with a feeling of contentment and a notebook full of possible names…..for myself!! I’ll leave the choice of the baby’s name to the totally amazing parents to be, but what will he or she call me?
Having lost my mum a while ago but being full of memories, I feel she still owns the title of Grandma, and not feeling like a nanny or a granny I am looking into other options. Having spent a year in Italy at the age of 18 I’m thinking of borrowing ‘Nonna’ if my Italian friends will allow, but who knows maybe ‘said grandchild’ might come up with its own little phrase for this apprentice.
Many of the changes I’ve had to face in my life have been of the first kind on my list, change that, like Meg Ryan in ‘You’ve Got Mail’ I really didn’t want to happen, but somehow we accept, adapt and move on.
I’m ready for some positive changes in my life, and who knows maybe this Nonna will even manage to knit a pair of Booties!!, Happy New Year.
Love Alison x
Embrace the winds of change. X
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I will do xxx
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Alison, this is such a lovely news. Congrats! Can’t wait to become a grandma myself. No joke, I really do. Great post too. Beautiful way to start the new year by acknowledging that things are constantly changing, around us and within. Love how you presented the informations and included meaningful tips in your post.
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Thank you, I felt like I needed a bit of a blog makeover to start the new year in a fresh way. It looks like its going to be an exciting one and cant wait to meet the New addition. Its a nice feeling.
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I like the changes you made, Alison. I’m always IN for a revamp! Trying myself to put some Oumph! to my spring wardrobe. 💚 When can I start calling you Grandma? Hi, hi…
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Ha Ha, not until July…. will have to revamp my wardrobe too with lots of non grandma looking clothes.
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That’s a good idea for a future post, Alison! 😀
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Congratulations on the baby news!! There’s this saying that goes “Change the Way You Look at Things and the Things You Look at Change”. It always puts me in the right mindset when things aren’t going smoothly. 🙂 To a wonderful year of positive changes. xx ~ Bernice
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Thank you and thanks for reading. Happy new year to you too.
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You’re quite right that eating healthy and exercising (taking care of ourselves) helps improve our ability to change. I think it’s easier because we’re in a good personal state, mentally and physically. This in turn likely improves self-confidence, which makes us open to those “winds of change.” Great post!
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Thank you Christy. Lovely times ahead.
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Change is hard. My kids are grown now and working full-time now, and one is moved out. Our daughter is saving for a car and hoping to move out this summer. It is hard, and I am still getting my bearings.
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I have four children and only one is at home still so i understand your feelings.. its a difficult time when you have to watch them go. Thanks for reading my post.
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Thanks. You’re welcome.
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Congratulations! Being a grandparent is one of my greatest joys, and the only constant in my life! That’s something that will never change!
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Thank you. Its lovely to have some new life to look forward too especially after loosing parents.
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Great news Alison. What a blessing! Lovely sentiments on your blog. Enjoyed it very much.
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Thank you…enjoyed reading about your grandchildren having just got the news. I
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I remember coming to terms with securing a “grandparent” name. I fought it, but had to concede… I wrote a story about the experience. I used to write so many stories.
Congratulations to you and your family.
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I guess we all concede eventually. Thankyou and thankyou for reading my thoughts.
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Wow, I finally caught up. Congratulations re baby – I like the Italian influence. Start differently and it will be an interesting tale for the grandchildren. New website – this is much better. Good change. Yes of course we will support you.
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Thank you and thanks for you support too.
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