“People are always saying that change is a good thing, but what they really mean is that something that you didn’t want to happen, has happened.” This quote is from my favourite film ‘You’ve Got Mail’, as Meg Ryan has to finally accept the loss of her beloved bookshop. Oh, how I love that film (and Daisies)! So much so that my precious DVD has given up the ghost. Change however is something I struggle with at times, and as Meg so aptly puts it, change often comes because of circumstances that are out of our control.
Three types of Change.
1. Change that is forced upon us ie: Death, divorce or the loss of something which gave us value, like our job or career.
2. Change that we choose ie: Changing our hairstyle, our blog theme (have you noticed?) or a change of lifestyle that we think would make us happier.
3: Change that comes from a positive place ie: Starting a new job, Engagement, Marriage, becoming a Parent or a Grandparent,
Change is the one constant thing in life, but whatever kind of change we face be it a sad change or a change that brings great joy, stress will play its part. I guess it’s how we face it and how we come out the other side that moulds our character and makes us stronger.
A few tips for surviving Change.
1. Acknowledge things are changing. Try not to keep fighting it, but start to deal with it, one step at a time.
2. Keep to a regular routine, even walking the dog every day can help to keep you grounded. (if you don’t have a dog borrow a friends!)
3. Realize that stress can be present even through positive changes.
4 Eat Healthily, Exercise and rest if needed.
5. Don’t be afraid to seek support… we all need help at times, that’s what friends and family are for.
Even the natural world is constantly changing and at times can get a bit muddled up.
I have some big changes ahead of me this year, some of which I have had a part in creating, and some that I can just ‘feel a coming’, I’m sure there will be blogs along the way to help me through as I share my experiences and journeys, but the one that is foremost in my mind is the transition from Parent to Grandparent!!… YES, I’m going to be a Grandma. Having spent the last few days walking around with a scan photo of my grandchild tucked safely in my pocket, occasionally checking in the mirror for new signs of ageing, and thinking surely it’s not possible, I am left with a feeling of contentment and a notebook full of possible names…..for myself!! I’ll leave the choice of the baby’s name to the totally amazing parents to be, but what will he or she call me?
Having lost my mum a while ago but being full of memories, I feel she still owns the title of Grandma, and not feeling like a nanny or a granny I am looking into other options. Having spent a year in Italy at the age of 18 I’m thinking of borrowing ‘Nonna’ if my Italian friends will allow, but who knows maybe ‘said grandchild’ might come up with its own little phrase for this apprentice.
Many of the changes I’ve had to face in my life have been of the first kind on my list, change that, like Meg Ryan in ‘You’ve Got Mail’ I really didn’t want to happen, but somehow we accept, adapt and move on.
I’m ready for some positive changes in my life, and who knows maybe this Nonna will even manage to knit a pair of Booties!!, Happy New Year.
Love Alison x