2018 has been a year of significant change for this Sussex girl in the Midlands, and avid ‘rose tinted spectacle’ wearer. Looking back as I come to the end of the first week of 2019, I am amazed at the changes that have occurred, and am immensely proud of the way in which my family and I have adapted and adjusted to those changes.
Oh how true I find this quote to be. Sometimes we yearn for change when we are stuck in a difficult situation, especially when it goes on for a long time, and we can see no light at the end of the tunnel. For those of you who have been following my blog, you will know that I have been mum and carer to my son Simon for the last 32 years. As a single mum for 20 of those years I’m sure you can imagine that there were many times when change was needed, if only in the form of a break. I longed for the wind to blow in a different direction, but as my mum would often say to me, “keep plodding on Alison” so I would adjust my sails and continue to float, wondering if the wind would ever blow my way.
This time last year we were busy packing, buying and preparing for a change that I really never thought would happen. Simon had been given the opportunity to move into supported living accommodation. He would have his own flat, but there would be on site carers to help him with the daily tasks in life that he finds too challenging, and sometimes too unsafe to cope with alone. The day he was handed his key is a day that I will never forget, and a day that brought positive change for both of us. And although Simon will always keep us on our toes with his antics, I guess I could say that it’s a day when the wind definitely blew in a different direction.
This massive, unexpected change has taken some adjusting too. Over Christmas, Simon was sat chatting with me and said: “Mum, when I spent my first night in Parklands I felt like crying, I felt so alone”. My heart broke a little as I sat listening to him, but also gave a little jump of pride as I sat looking at my son, who with all his difficulties has stuck with his new situation, however hard he found it at first. He now has far more support not just from me but from his family as a whole, and our relationship is vastly improved.
Meanwhile, as we were working our way through the Simon Changes there was another rather lovely life change on its way. My first grandchild Arlo Frank was born on the 21st of July. A lovely healthy baby boy and thankfully safely delivered at home. Over the next few days Mum, Dad, and baby Arlo began to work their way through those first tentative days as a new little family. I have to say that I am so proud of those two newbie parents, and the amazing job they are doing of caring for my grandson and each other.
Well, what a year! I became an empty nester and a Nonna in the space of a few months. I’m sure those of you reading this who are already grandparents, will know what I mean when I say that the unexpected love I feel for that little boy is incredible.
Just over two years ago I had a bad fall downstairs which my body is still recovering from, but looking back on 2018, a year of major change, I am also proud of myself for what I have achieved during a time of personal difficulty. I have also learnt to look after myself, to pace myself and to have faith in the adage that ‘time is a great healer’.
We can I’m sure be proactive in making changes in our lives, but sometimes we have to be willing to sail through the storm however long or hard it may be. We have to learn to adjust our sails and take a day at a time, until one day the wind begins to gently blow our way……….when the ‘timing is right’.
Now here’s to a great 2019!!
Love Alison x
Heartwarming and inspirational and…quite wise.
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Thank you Gary. I have my moments 😊
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Funny lady!
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I guess we grow wiser as we journey through difficulty, then look back and see how far we have come.
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I nominated you for a Sunshine Blogger Award.
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A lovely post and what new journies to come for all. It looks like Simon has made his home, feel like home.
What a change for you all, which quite rightly so will be strange, different and challenging, because you have been his carer for many years. But new adventures are to come for you all. May they all be good and positive for you all. You’re still going to be busy I can see, with a grandchild too.
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Thank you liz. Yes im still quite involved with Simon but having some space between us and not having to do everything has been a welcome change. Happy new year x
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Yes, it will be. Enjoy what lies ahead this year, for you all. X
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Interesting story Alison. You have a strong character. Family is everything. Gotta do what ya gotta do. Happy New Year.
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Thank you Len. And your right, there is no getting out where unconditional love is present.
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Such a beautiful and inspiring post, Alison. Simon looks so happy holding those keys…what a smile! Congratulations on the birth of your grandchild. I believe 2019 will be a great year for you and your family!
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Im hoping so Jill. There are more possible changes ahead so im quite excited for this year, and every new stage with Arlo will be fun 😊
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Thank you so much Jill. He has grown up so much although will always need a helping hand or two. Being a grandma is lovely but there are a lot of people wanting cuddles so I have to take my turn. I think 2019 is maybe going to be my year. :). Happy New Yea x
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It’s so encouraging to see how much your life has improved. Your resilience has to be admired. Enjoy the winds of positive change!
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Thank you, I certainly will 🙂
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Wow, what an amazing year you’ve had! And I’m glad you are still recovering. Sending some healing thoughts your way!
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it certainly was. Lots to look forward to in this New Year too I hope. Thank you.
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🙂
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Dear Alison,
This post was deeply touching and inspiring. I am happy to hear that the wind turned in your favor. I wish you lots of wonderful adventures and discoveries with your children and your little son, Arlo, for 2019. Many beautiful and creative projects for you, too! – And some “ME time” to recharge your batteries. Much love and hugs. -Dominique xoxo
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Thank you Dominique. Im so glad you enjoyed the read. Arlo is so lovely and Im sure there will be lots of creativity ahead. I think that maybe the year ahead is my year x
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Yes! I like the way you think. Stay strong, stay positive… Exactly the way you are. Your are so inspiring. 😘
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Ah thats a lovely compliment. Thank you x
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😊❤️
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A wonderful year of growth for many of you! Your son looks happy holding those keys – has he adjusted to his new living arrangements? Much love, laughter and magic for the new year. 💜🌟✨
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It certainly has been. Yes he has adjusted really well although there will always be niggles along the way that I have to keep my eyes on. Generally he is really happy and has far more social contact which is great.
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This post really Lifts the spirits. Thank you
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Im glad you enjoyed reading it.
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Hi! Just wanted to let you know that I mentioned your blog with a Sunshine Blogger nomination…You probably have already done this, but just want you to know how much I enjoy reading what you write! Gary
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Gary thank you for this. Nothing could have been more needed today than that littke spark of belief from ‘your side of the world’. Im not sure ill get time to do it but thank you.
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A simple prayer of support for you.
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Thank you.
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So many great changes! Sounds as if this new year will be a positive one filled with transformation and love!
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Its certainly been a different one, and yes lots of love and cuddles in the New Year. Happy New Year to you.
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Alison, a tender and moving summary of your year of changes. Congratulations to Simon on having his own place … a huge step for you both. So happy to read about little Arlo … wonderful news and he looks adorable. I bet his doting Nonna is often on hand to babysit!😀 Wishing you lots of happiness in the coming year …and here’s to always being ready to adjust our sails! It’s the only way to live! xx
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Thank you Annika for your lovely encouraging comment.
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Wow! A lot of changes. Proud of Simon. Congrats to you for Simon and for the new grandbaby!
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Thank you 😊its certainly been a busy year.
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Congrats on the new grandbaby! A lot of change. I love that quote so much! 💗 Happy New Year!!
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Your 2018 certainly was full. Here’s to a wonderful 2019!
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It was. Thank you and to you.
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Thanks 🙂
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What a lovely, heartwarming thread! and welcome to the world baby Arlo! x
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